Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. I do notice that most of my friends are married and overweight -- not sure if there's a correlation between those two facts, but as a result, we don't talk much about body issues. And she's a version of beauty. The handful I do talk to always give me the same reaction: He has my ideal body, and as an Asian male, his own masculinity makes me feel inadequate. Some friends even tell me they think of me as 'athletic.
For me, it left me looking, as my friends once described, 'like a Holocaust survivor.
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It's nice to hear, but no matter how often I hear it, I don't believe it. But I had a few important experiences -- like having to use communal Japanese baths and swimming competitively -- that made me quite comfortable with bare skin by the time I got to high school. I've always wanted a much leaner body type, so even as small as I am, it makes me wish I was thinner. I want my body to look fit, but also lived in. I don't want a perfect body. So many of the stories that were hidden inside of me -- things I loved, things I was scared of, things that haunted me -- were finally visible, and my body finally felt like it belonged to me because I had a hand in making it the way I wanted it to be.